Category Archives: Sexuality

One Shade of Perverted

 

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Recently a friend of mine posted this article about the 50 Shades of Grey book and the movie that will be in theatres in time for Valentine’s Day.  A conversation following her post went like this:

My Friend’s Nephew: I’m not necessarily disagreeing with your article, but I am curious whether you have read the book or not? [sic]

My Friend: [My Friend’s Nephew], I’d read and heard about the book’s perverse content when it came out and I definitely chose NOT to read it.

My Friend’s Nephew: LoL that’s what I suspected. Just making sure thats [sic] clear to me and others reading this.

Me: [My Friend’s Nephew], have you ever walked off a curb and were struck by a bus? No? Then how do you know it’s not good for you or others to do?

My Friend’s Nephew: Lmao!! You really can’t be serious!? Only a quack would make such a comparison.

With maturity comes humility and wisdom. Maturity doesn’t always come with age. With youth ducksback2comes arrogance and impertinence. Youth dismisses wisdom usually because it interferes with pleasure. With my age I have matured to the point that comments from youth that I am a “quack” simply roll off like water off a duck’s back.

Wisdom says that one doesn’t have to read a book to understand or have a comment about its contents. One can get to the truth by taking the evidence of eyewitness testimony. Wisdomhit-by-bus knows that you don’t have to step in front of a bus to know that it hurts. Likewise, you don’t have to read this book or see this movie to know that they are bad for society.  (I know there can be some debate over the validity of some eyewitness testimony; but, if the account of the eyewitness is true then others are justified in relying on it.  In a perfect world we will all have the same knowledge about every subject.  As that is not possible we all have to put faith in eyewitness testimony at some point.)

I have not read this book, but I did borrow the audio version. I wanted to be able to answer foolish critics that reject any analysis because of a lack of experiential knowledge. The first several chapters I would label as “Foreplay for women.” These chapters deal with a chance meeting, moments of hidden attraction, subtle hints, slight flirtations, coyness, and just the right touch of cockiness that seems to attract women. After that the book quickly descends closer to hell when Christian Grey leads Anastasia Steele down the path of perverted submissive sexual deviance.  (Usually authors are very meticulous about naming their characters.  I suspect the author of the book intended the name “Christian Grey” to convey a non-judgmental, nothing-is-black-or-white approach to sexual bondage, while at the same time judging Christians for being what is perceived as judgmental.)

I couldn’t finish the book. It is every bit of disgusting that the author of this article describes. Like the visual pornography that controls the minds of men, this verbal pornography in 50 Shades of Grey is every bit as much of a lie. Such perversion is never satiated. Deviance must always get darker because our senses naturally get numb to constant stimulation. The fantasy in this book is nothing but a lie. The characters are fiction. There are no “Christian Greys” out there who both fantasize about abusing women and at the same time care for them in a loving, committed relationship.

The Spirit of the Age

The Spirit of the Age

This book is about the spirit of this age. The spirit of this age is not about wisdom. It is about maximizing pleasure even at the expense of others. That is what sexual bondage is about. Even consensual bondage hurts both the sadist and the masochist. It is unhealthy to strip one’s humanity by elevating one’s dominance over another human. Any truth claim that gets in the way of maximizing pleasure will be vociferously rejected, even censored. Maximizing pleasure is about creating your own rules of morality. It is about becoming your own god. It is about believing the lie the serpent told Eve in the Garden of Eden. It is idolatry.

Those with wisdom and discernment know that 50 Shades of Grey is cancerous to human society. There may be fifty shades of grey, but there is only one shade to this book: Perverted.  We will not be loved for the truth we speak. In fact we will be called “quacks” or worse. But, the truth we must speak, and we must speak the truth in a way that makes people want to leave the lies.

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Yahweh: The Original Women’s Liberator

YAHWEH: The Original Women’s Liberator
By Christopher S. Brownwell

Throughout the Sixties, people complained, especially men, about the sexual suppression of women.  The “Free Love” counter-culture demanded we “Make Love. Not war.”  Author homeward boundElaine Tyler May in Homeward Bound: American Families in the Cold War Era juxtaposed the American foreign policy of containing communism abroad with the domestic containment policy of social roles within the home.  With this domestic “containment” came the suppression of female sexuality.

FoxNews.com “Sexpert” Dr. Yvonne K. Fulbright is complaining in her column “Easy or Empowered? The Female Double Standard” on February 2, 2009 that society is containing female sexuality and repressing their sexual identities.  How horrible is it that people, especially other women, use labels such as “whore,” “slut,” “tramp,” for promiscuous women.  Dr. Fulbright laments that many women now feel uncomfortable in asking for what they want sexually.

With these labels tossed around, women can’t be open with their sexuality like the Samantha-jonesfictional character Samantha Jones from “Sex and the City.”  I understand that sex is Dr. Fulbright’s career choice.  Maybe Dr. Fulbright sees herself as a “temple priestess,” providing sexual empowerment to women.  But, I find it ridiculous that there are women waiting to be freed sexually in order to imitate Samantha.  I have never met a woman that talks or acts like Samantha.  Women just don’t act like that regardless of whether they fear being labeled a slut.

Temple of Aphrodite

Temple of Aphrodite

 

 

 

Dr. Fulbright dreams of returning to the romantic notion of temple priestesses who were “artists in the sacred act of using sexuality as a spiritual, healing force.”  These goddesses, after all, played an important role in instructing virgins in the ancient art of making love.  Her romanticism of the role of these temple prostitutes is a revision of history.  Greek historian Herodotus writes that “The foulest Babylonian custom is that which compels every woman of the land to sit in the temple of Aphrodite and have intercourse with some stranger once in her life.” Herodotus, The Histories 1.199, tr A.D. Godley (1920).

A woman could not choose and could not refuse the first paying stranger.

Once a woman has taken her place there, she does not go away to her home before some stranger has cast money into her lap, and had intercourse with her outside the temple; but while he casts the money, he must say, “I invite you in the name of Mylitta” (that is the Assyrian name for Aphrodite).  It does not matter what sum the money is; the woman will never refuse, for that would be a sin, the money being by this act made sacred. So she follows the first man who casts it and rejects no one. After their intercourse, having discharged her sacred duty to the goddess, she goes away to her home; and thereafter there is no bribe however great that will get her. So then the women that are fair and tall are soon free to depart, but the uncomely have long to wait because they cannot fulfill the law; for some of them remain for three years, or four.  There is a custom like this in some parts of Cyprus.

This forced prostitution was also practiced in Canaan, ancient Palestine, Sicily, Greece, India, among other places.  Forced prostitution is not a romantic notion even in today’s morass of moral relativism.  The romantic period Dr. Fulbright describes is not sexual freedom.  It is sexual slavery.

Mylitta- Babylonian and Assyrian Goddess

Mylitta- Babylonian and Assyrian Goddess

Dr. Fulbright assails Christianity for ruining the sexual utopia.  Now these “Watchers of the Stars,” these “goddess ambassadors” can no longer spread love and healing.  The labels Christians put on sexually active females control women by shaming and humiliating them.  Women can no longer be open about their sexuality.  People will spread rumors about women who pursue their sexual freedom.

However, the Hebrew and Christian God did not suppress women.  He liberated them and demonstrated that they had value and are not merely tools for male sexuality.  Deuteronomy 23:17-18.  God’s design in forbidding the practice of temple prostitution was to protect the sexuality of women.  God did that by actually suppressing men’s deviant sexuality.

The God of Abraham, Isaac and Jacob is the original women’s liberator.  Like a Knight, defending a damsel’s honor, God gave women their freedom from sexual bondage.  Dr. Fulbright should be gushing about with romantic feelings for Chivalry-A-Knight-and-rescued-damselthe God who cares so much for women that He promulgated a law forbidding forced temple prostitution.  Yet, for some reason she would rather make a maudlin appeal for a return to a chimerical, idyllic time of sexual oracles and healers.

That fanciful place she seeks is fantasy.  It never existed.  What did exist was a hell on earth for women forced to yield their bodies and their sexual identities to the brute force of male sexuality.  The fact of the matter is the only safe place for women to find and express their sexual identities is within the commitment of marriage to one man who is as committed to her.  Until then, sexually “empowered” women will not be revered as anything more than temple prostitutes.